Rejection emails can hurt but they don’t mean you failed
You finally hear back from a company you were excited about… but instead of a job offer, it’s a polite rejection email. Cue the sinking feeling in your stomach.
Rejection in the job search isn’t just common, it’s inevitable. But how you handle it can be a game-changer in your career, your confidence, and your next opportunity. One powerful, underutilized move? Learning how to reply to a rejection email.
Yes, you can reply. Not out of desperation or to beg for another chance, but to build bridges, leave a strong impression, and potentially open up new doors down the line.
Before we talk about what to say, let’s talk about why rejection isn’t the dead-end it often feels like.
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How to reply to a rejection email and stay in the game
Let’s be real: rejection sucks. Whether it’s your dream role or a “maybe” opportunity, a “no” can sting, especially if you’re in a season of self-doubt, battling imposter syndrome, or trying to build your confidence after years in one role.
But rejection doesn’t mean you’re not good enough. It means this particular opportunity wasn’t the right fit. That’s it.
Need proof? Just look at these stories:
- Sara Blakely, founder of Spanx, was laughed at and shut down countless times before someone finally said yes.
- Stephen King’s first book was rejected 30 times before it was published.
- Anna Wintour was fired early in her career for being too “edgy” and went on to run Vogue.
- Steve Jobs was fired from his own company… only to return more brilliant, creative, and well-respected than ever before
The greatest success stories are built on rejection. You don’t need 100 job offers.
You need one aligned offer that values what you bring to the table. That’s a numbers game, not a self-worth test.
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How to reply with professionalism and poise
So you received the dreaded “we’ve chosen another candidate” email. You might be wondering, how do you politely respond to a rejection email?
Here’s where knowing how to handle this moment with grace sets you apart. Most candidates never respond. The ones who do, especially those who do it gracefully, stand out.
Use this moment to thank the employer, express continued interest, and ask for feedback (if appropriate). Here’s a simple structure for how to write a thank you email after rejection that you can follow:
Subject Line: Thank you for the opportunity
Body:
Hi ,
Thank you for letting me know the outcome of the hiring process. While I’m of course disappointed to not be moving forward, I truly appreciated the chance to meet with your team and learn more about .
I remain very interested in the work your organization is doing, and I would love to be considered for future opportunities that may align with my background.
If you’re open to it, I’d be grateful for any feedback you can share about my interview or candidacy.
Thanks again and I wish you all the best with your new hire.
Warm regards,
This isn’t about winning them back. It’s about professionalism, humility, and confidence. You’re letting them know that you’re reflective, growth-oriented, and still interested in the mission.
And yes, sometimes this response does lead to future opportunities. Recruiters have long memories and hiring plans change all the time.
Rejection emails are never personal
Now let’s zoom out. This part of the job search? It’s arbitrary.
Companies may have a “perfect fit” already identified internally. They may pause hiring. They might change the role entirely, or extend an offer before you even get to the final round. Sometimes they don’t even see your application due to tech or timing.
It’s not about you. It’s about timing, relationships, red tape, or plain old luck.
As a recruiter, I used to line up 5 qualified candidates for every role. Only one could get the offer. That means 4 talented, experienced professionals walked away without an offer every time. That doesn’t make them failures. It makes them job seekers.
If you got an interview? That means your resume worked. Someone saw value in you. That’s a win worth celebrating.
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How to reply to a rejection email and reframe the narrative
It’s easy to equate job search rejection with personal rejection. After all, job searching can feel like putting your entire identity on trial. But you are not your resume. You are not your job title. And you are not your rejection count.
Let’s flip the script:
- You rejected opportunities before, too because they didn’t align. So can employers.
- You learn something from every application, interview, and “no.”
- You grow your network every time you engage professionally and follow up.
Plus, replying to a rejection email is an empowering act. It shifts you from feeling passive and powerless to active and intentional.
Think of it as planting a seed. It may not grow today but you never know when that connection will bear fruit.
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Rejection is redirection
Here’s one of the most beautiful parts of this process: rejection has a way of rerouting you somewhere better.
I’ve worked with so many job seekers who were devastated by a rejection… only to reach out later expressing gratitude it didn’t work out. The next job was more aligned. The team was more inclusive. The role gave them the flexibility or leadership or challenge they truly wanted.
Don’t give rejection any more energy than it deserves. You don’t need to fake positivity. But try to stay open. Something better is coming.
Try this if you’re feeling bold…
Feeling brave? Consider talking about your job search or even a recent rejection on LinkedIn.
Yes, really.
Vulnerable posts resonate. You never know who’s watching or who might be able to help. Just be sure to end your post with what you’re looking for next and a hopeful tone.
Example:
I recently received a “not this time” email for a role I was excited about. While rejection is never fun, I’m walking away with clarity, gratitude, and more motivation to find the right opportunity. If you know of any roles in , I’d love to connect. Onward and upward!
It’s not about ego. It’s about connection.
Rejection can feel like a punch to the but it doesn’t define you. Every “no” clears the path for a better “yes.” And knowing how to handle rejection with professionalism and poise just might make the difference between a closed door… and one that opens later.
Keep showing up. Keep growing. Keep believing that your next role isn’t just a job. It’s a mutual match.
You’ve got this!
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